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Most successful people have failed miserably. That’s right. At
one time or another they have flopped, fell short, missed the
mark, struck out and goofed up royally. However, the difference
between these people and the rest of the world is that when they
failed, they made a choice to use the experience to better
themselves…to become stronger.

Are you determined to reach your goal? Do you really believe you
can achieve what you set out to accomplish? With determination
and belief, you too can make the same choice to turn a failed
situation into a winning one. How? By choosing to adapt a
positive perspective and engage in edifying self-talk. Here are
four opportunities to stay motivated in the midst of failure:

“The Only Direction is UP” or “It Can’t Get Any Worse”

Feel like you’ve hit rock bottom? Don’t beat up on yourself too
badly. To experience disappointment, heartbreak, embarrassment
and/or self-doubt is to be human. However, to wallow in this
state for too long is downright destructive. Tell yourself that
it doesn’t get much worse than this point of failure and let
yourself know that the only place left to go is “upward.” Use
the failure as motivation to start climbing back up. When you do
this, you will see that instead of running from failure you will
look it in the eye and overcome it.

“I Have a Chance to Do Better Next Time”

As long as you’re breathing, there’s always room for improvement.
Choose to use your failure as motivation to do better the next
time around. When you remember your goal and envision reaching
it, you will be super-charged to find ways to develop yourself.
For example, if you need to do better in school, make (and
follow) a consistent study schedule. If you are intent on a
promotion at work, take classes to increase your skill-set. No
matter what the failed task consists of, you can use it to
motivate yourself to get more done.

“Hmmm, I May Need to Change Direction”

Does it seem like you’ve come to a roadblock? Then the solution
may just be detouring and moving toward your goal in a different
way. When something does not work out as planned, you need to
re-evaluate the route you are taking. So review the situation,
re-group and get on a track “around” that roadblock. The track
may be a different one, but it may also be a more successful
one.

“This is Not the End of the Line”

Know this: everyone fails from time to time but failure is not
the end of the line unless you allow it to be. You blundered,
you tried, you failed and it hurts. Allow yourself time to
grieve it but then let it go so that you can get back to the
business of reaching your intended goal. Your goal IS your
motivation. Remind yourself that the only positive option is to
seek ways to turn the situation around. Then tell yourself that
in the morning, you will begin again!

Life gives us many opportunities to improve, but whether we do or
not depends on our effort. Once a week a person should sit down
and examine the progress he/she has made towards achieving a set
goal. If goals have not been reached then honest examination must
be undertaken to discover the reasons why. This must be followed
by extra determination that these goals will be met next time.

Do not worry or become stressed if you do not always achieve your
goals, remember you’re only human. However it is imperative that
you dissect why you failed, were they genuine reasons beyond your
control or simply excuses? If the answer turns out to be excuses
then double your resolve and effort that they will not stand in
your way the next time.

Always remember that the harder the goal you set yourself the
greater the reward, not just in reaching the goal but in personal
development and inner belief, making the next goal you set
yourself that little bit easier. Do not be afraid of hard goals
as these will bring you more reward than half a dozen smaller
triumphs.

Too many people who fail when trying to achieve a goal become
defeated and believe they just do not have what it takes. Nothing
could be further from the truth. What they do not understand, or
have not fully grasped, is that all they need is to instill
within themselves a little extra determination, an honesty with
themselves why they failed, and then to have another go.

The secret to success is to always try to improve yourself – no
matter what life may throw in your path. Sure, there will be
obstacles, however, do not view them as insurmountable, be gritty
and work around or over them. Everyone really wants to do
something, but there are few that will put forward the needed
effort to make the necessary sacrifice to secure it. There is
only one way to accomplish anything and that is to go ahead and
do it. A person may accomplish almost anything if they just set
their hearts on doing it and let nothing interfere with progress.
The “bigger” the person the smaller the obstacle appears. The
“smaller” the man the greater the obstacle appears. Always look
at the advantages you gain by overcoming obstacles, and it will
give you the needed courage for their conquest. Look back at
obstacles you have overcome and realize that the present obstacle
will soon be added to the list.

Winston Churchill summed up all the above in two sentences:

“Never give in — never, never, never, never, in nothing great or
small, large or petty, never give in except to convictions of
honor and good sense. Never yield to force; never yield to the
apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.”